What defines us? Is it an idea of who we think we are? A vague notion of who we want to be perceived as? Do we let others define us? Does our definition change?... Because of experience and someones opinion of us, something someone says or does. How manipulated are we, in our thoughts of ourselves by others ideas or actions? Maturity must play a role in our definitions. What we choose to mold our perceptions of ourselves as. Can we alter our definition by choice? So, if we don't like the person we think we are, or who we think others see, change.
Why does it matter so much to us what people think of us? Why do we alter ourselves to please others. Or, at least our perception of what we think they want. Why do people usually not see us as we see us? And where has all the rum gone?
Father God, I am so grateful others can not see me heart. I am so grateful You love me in spite of myself. I want your perspective to matter most. Please help me to see others the way You see them. How special and precious they truly are. Father, please help Emily & I to see ourselves the way You see us. To see what we need to change. And to see You the way You would have us see You.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Perspective
Funny how you can see the exact same situation in different ways. It all depends on your perspective. From inconvenience to opportunity. From mine to yours or ours. From positive to negative. Example, my child just asked if she could turn on the tube. The tube happens to be next to me, my computer & Miles Davis. Who I am happily listening to on CD. It’s been three weeks since my last blog. Three weeks since I had a chance to vent, pontificate & reflect. My perspective was not of opportunity, yours/ours or positive. Request. May I please interrupt your infrequent solitude to turn on the tube. Now, after I huffed "No, I haven’t blogged in 3 weeks. Could you please wait?" I turned and looked at my first five sentences. Humph. Preaching to myself. I sigh. Surprisingly my child (who is actually the writer) says "Ok." Thank you Dr. Lehman!! You are brilliant! More on him later. Just a note, in about ten to fifteen years, please look through your local book store. Ask for any books by Emily Daily, and there you will find a truly funny, intelligent & witty experience. And my fervent pray is that I will not be included in the book!
Steven Covey, author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People talks about this. Paradigm shift I think he calls it. The idea is that you can look at a situation, sum it up. Then through new information or a Paradigm shift/new perspective you will have a completely different picture than what you started with.
It’s truly amazing! Pastor Will Oswald of Journey Church was talking about this, this morning. The idea of perspective in relation to money. I had totally forgotten this concept. I used to live by it. Like most things, I forgot. Money is all God’s anyway. He gives us everything we have, materially and ability. I am just the steward.
Steward - a person who takes responsibility to make decisions and take actions today that will allow resources to be maintained in a healthy manner.
I wish I could find Pastor Will’s definition. But, this will do. To hear his definition listen to this http://www.thejourneyonline.com/ look up April 19, 09 "Play Your Hand". It’s a great sermon! It changed my perspective. Hopefully I’ll remember this time. And apply it to everything in my life. My child, God’s money, the abilities He has given me, how I use my time and even McKenzie. (See pervious blog)
Now, if only I could apply "perspective" to my increasing wrinkles, sagging arms, loss of muscle and desire to run again. I guess I’ll chalk that up to opportunities.
*Note: Dr. Kevin Lehman is a wonderful Christian psychologist, humorist and author. The book I was referring to earlier Have A New Kid By Friday which sounds terrible but it’s a great book!
Steven Covey, author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People talks about this. Paradigm shift I think he calls it. The idea is that you can look at a situation, sum it up. Then through new information or a Paradigm shift/new perspective you will have a completely different picture than what you started with.
It’s truly amazing! Pastor Will Oswald of Journey Church was talking about this, this morning. The idea of perspective in relation to money. I had totally forgotten this concept. I used to live by it. Like most things, I forgot. Money is all God’s anyway. He gives us everything we have, materially and ability. I am just the steward.
Steward - a person who takes responsibility to make decisions and take actions today that will allow resources to be maintained in a healthy manner.
I wish I could find Pastor Will’s definition. But, this will do. To hear his definition listen to this http://www.thejourneyonline.com/ look up April 19, 09 "Play Your Hand". It’s a great sermon! It changed my perspective. Hopefully I’ll remember this time. And apply it to everything in my life. My child, God’s money, the abilities He has given me, how I use my time and even McKenzie. (See pervious blog)
Now, if only I could apply "perspective" to my increasing wrinkles, sagging arms, loss of muscle and desire to run again. I guess I’ll chalk that up to opportunities.
*Note: Dr. Kevin Lehman is a wonderful Christian psychologist, humorist and author. The book I was referring to earlier Have A New Kid By Friday which sounds terrible but it’s a great book!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
I woke up the other day and found that my life, my child's life was slipping past me. I woke up and there was this pretty, to intelligent for her own good, 15 year old standing in front of me wanting to go on a date. Where have I been? Thank you God I woke up when I did. What have I missed? What has Emily missed?
Distraction seems to be a key focus of my life. What was I thinking to get three dogs??? Sometimes Lord I wish you could intervene. Keep me from doing the stupid things I do. Though, wait.... (Mercy stop pawing at the door! Just wait! Just wait.). To start a project or anything for that matter and actually complete it would be.. would be.. I don't know, I haven't been able to do that since I got..... (Mercy get off of the ottomen!) Ok, where was I? Oh, actually starting and finishing a task. Well, point made.
How much time have I missed with my precious daughter because of those three decisions (Riley, brother McKenzie 11yrs. & Mercy 6 yrs.) Lord what was I thinking?? (McKenzie, stop barking and get off the, Mercy off of the couch!) Sigh. Anyone want a dog? chuckle.
I wonder. If I added up all of the time I have spent tending to, cleaning up & after, letting in and letting out, not to mention, puppy training, Ceaser Millan books/shows, driving long distances to get their expensive food, (that of course is the only food the boys, Riley & McKenzie can digest) and just plain focusing on these three. If I added all that time. How much would it be? Time I could have giving to building a better relationship with the one person who matters to me most. The regret runs deep my friend. Ahh, ok, it makes more sense now. There is my sleep. That regret is enough to make you run to the bottle, the TV and any other escape at hand. Because now this 15 year old & I live in the same house, with no real relationship. Escapism has only intaginized that relationship. When will I learn Lord? Please Father God, open my eyes so that I can see what I can do now to change and change my relationship with my precious gift from You, my Emily. Mercy! Stop pawing the door! Sigh. Anyone want a dog?
Distraction seems to be a key focus of my life. What was I thinking to get three dogs??? Sometimes Lord I wish you could intervene. Keep me from doing the stupid things I do. Though, wait.... (Mercy stop pawing at the door! Just wait! Just wait.). To start a project or anything for that matter and actually complete it would be.. would be.. I don't know, I haven't been able to do that since I got..... (Mercy get off of the ottomen!) Ok, where was I? Oh, actually starting and finishing a task. Well, point made.
How much time have I missed with my precious daughter because of those three decisions (Riley, brother McKenzie 11yrs. & Mercy 6 yrs.) Lord what was I thinking?? (McKenzie, stop barking and get off the, Mercy off of the couch!) Sigh. Anyone want a dog? chuckle.
I wonder. If I added up all of the time I have spent tending to, cleaning up & after, letting in and letting out, not to mention, puppy training, Ceaser Millan books/shows, driving long distances to get their expensive food, (that of course is the only food the boys, Riley & McKenzie can digest) and just plain focusing on these three. If I added all that time. How much would it be? Time I could have giving to building a better relationship with the one person who matters to me most. The regret runs deep my friend. Ahh, ok, it makes more sense now. There is my sleep. That regret is enough to make you run to the bottle, the TV and any other escape at hand. Because now this 15 year old & I live in the same house, with no real relationship. Escapism has only intaginized that relationship. When will I learn Lord? Please Father God, open my eyes so that I can see what I can do now to change and change my relationship with my precious gift from You, my Emily. Mercy! Stop pawing the door! Sigh. Anyone want a dog?
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